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Home Birth Essentials: 23 Things You Need for a Great Homebirth

July 18, 2025

Wondering what you will need for your first (or second….or third) home birth? Get all the home birth essentials, must haves, and recommendations in this post!

Defining Home Birth Essentials

So we get it….what we say is “essential” might not make the list for you. Many things can factor in when it comes to what exactly you need for your home birth.

Some of the things that made our list are items we found helpful, but maybe not necessarily essential. Meaning, you could have a great birth without them.

Another thing to consider is that every midwife provides different birth supplies. Most midwives will have her own list of what she expects you to provide so you will want to cross reference our list with hers. Some midwives provide all the medical, cleaning, birth pool supplies, etc. It is a conversation you will definitely want to have with her as you get closer to welcoming your baby.

Where to Source Home Birth Essentials

You truly do not need much at all to birth a baby. However, gathering the essentials, comfort gear, and setting up your space (fluffing your nest) is such an intuitive and fun process!

We source most of our supplies from grocery stores, amazon, and other online resources for home birthing.

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Your midwife may have her own sources as well so definitely make sure you ask her about the things you cannot get locally.

Complete List of Our Home Birth Must-Haves

1. Birth Pool*

*For those who want a water birth and the pool is not provided by the midwife.

You do not have to get the most expensive, name brand tub on the market. Amazon has some great options that have a beautiful aesthetic with a much cheaper price tag. I know of mamas who have purchased kiddy pools to birth in, used cold plunge tubs, and many other “birth tub” options that are more affordable.

You can also look into renting one through your midwife or her recommendations or check online for homebirth tub rentals. In my experience purchasing was cheaper than renting. Some midwives provide the pool in their cost, you will just be responsible for purchasing the liner, water hose, and adapter (for hot water).

Birth Pool Supplies You Need…

•Birth tub liner.

•Sump pump to suck out the water from the tub when finished using.

•Rv grade water hose

•Hot water connection adapter for whichever source of hot water you’ll be using

•Tarp or waterproof protection for under birth tub

•Mesh strainer or fish net for potential debris in the water

•Air pump for pool.

2. Emesis Bags/small trash can

Emesis bags or a small trash can nearby can be helpful if you deal with nausea or vomiting during labor. If this is your first birth it is safe to assume you may need them at some point.

3. Towels and Wash Cloths

Towels are one of the top home birth essentials. You may find it comforting to have a wash cloth for your head or neck during labor. Keep a few for after labor clean up as well. Clean towels will be needed for after birth, especially if you are wanting to labor or birth in the water.

Birth Tip: I use all my old rags, wash cloths, and towels so we can just trash them after birth instead of having to wash them. During early labor I put all the towels in the dryer so someone can heat them up in case of shock, or so the baby will have something warm to snuggle in after delivery.

4. Mattress Protection and Sheets

A mattress protector or a shower curtain liner is a must have for keeping a clean space during and after labor. An extra set of cozy sheets for after are an absolute home birth essential.

Birth Tip: Here’s how to make your bed for a home birth….Start with a clean set of sheets (these will be the sheets you sleep in after birth- make sure they are your coziest set!). Next, layer with a mattress protector or a shower curtain liner. Then, place another set of sheets on top of the protective layer (these are the sheets you will labor and birth on- make sure they can get messy. I also make sure the top set of sheets can be thrown away so we do not have to wash any birth linens.

5. Chux or Puppy Pads

Chux pads or extra large puppy pads are super helpful for keeping a low mess, easy clean up birth space. They can absorb all the birth fluids and mess. My midwife also uses them to place the placenta for inspection. She uses them on the floor to transfer me from the birth tub and back into bed. They catch all the mess and can be thrown away easily after.

6. Large Bowl and Gallon Ziplock Bag

These may be nice to have on hand for placenta inspection and disposal.

7. Large Trash Bags

Those big, black landscaping trash bags are perfect for birth clean up.

Birth Tip: Try to keep all your birth supplies in one place so your midwife does not have to try to find things or ask you where things are.

8. Cleaning Supplies

My midwife keeps disinfecting wipes on hand for cleaning purposes but if your midwife does not provide them you may need to for easier clean up. All-purpose cleaner and rags are helpful. Hydrogen peroxide can get any blood stains up in case of a mess on carpet.

Homebirth Fact: Your midwife will take care of all the birth clean up for you and many of them bring thier own supplies along!

9. Yoga (birth) Ball and/or Peanut Ball

Having a birth ball to bounce on can make things so much more comfortable during labor. It can also be used to bring baby into a better position and help with proper descending of the baby. A peanut ball can also be a comfort measure depending on your preferred positioning in labor.

Birth Tip: If you do not have a peanut ball and you want to try a similar positioning in labor you can use pillows to simulate it. First, cover your pillow in a trash bag so it is protected from any labor mess. Then straddle it, resting your head on another pillow. You may have to play around with the pillows to find the best positioning but sometimes it can make you feel more comfortable!

10. Comfort Measures and Pain Management

This will vary from person to person. If this is your first baby or first natural, unmedicated birth I highly recommend having ALL the pain management things on hand because you just never know what will work for you. If this is not your first rodeo, you know what you need!

If you wan to learn more about pain management techniques and essentials go check out this post on Pain Management for Unmedicated Birth.

11. Comfortable Pajamas

Comfortable pajamas for after birth are home birth essentials! Get multiple pairs in case you bleed out on your first pair.

13. Nutritious Snack and Electrolytes

Nutritious snacks and a hydrating electrolyte drink will help keep your energy up for labor. Some women cannot eat during labor, but you can bet when it is all done you will want a good snack and LOTS of water!

Homebirth Fact: It is also nice to have a little snack basket set up for for your birth team, especially if you want them on scene for the entire process of your labor. Of course, they do not expect this, and many bring their own snacks. However, it is always appreciated.

14. Mirror

A handheld mirror is nice to have if you want to see your baby crowning.

15. Super Big Water Bottle (with a straw!)

Staying hydrated during labor is essential…it is also a good excuse to buy that cute Hydrojug you’ve been eyeing!

Homebirth Tip: Using the bathroom is actually so good during labor. My midwife and many others call it the “dilation station”. Bathroom trips also keeps you active in labor, again, helping labor to progress. That is why frequent sips of water can help keep your labor going while also keeping you hydrated.

16. Vitamin K Drops and Eye Balm

If you want to supplement vitamin K you will want to have vitamin K drops on hand. The same with the eye goop, unless your midwife provides this.

17. Birth Affirmations

If your husband is your main labor support, you may both benefit from having birth affirmations or things for him to say written down before labor.

18. Postpartum Home Birth Essentials

You will need adult diapers/maxi pads for after delivery. Ice pads or hot packs can also be life savers for pain after birth. You may also want an herbal perineum spray for minor tears, swelling, and discomfort. Breast care is also important for breastfeeding mothers so grab some lanolin, breast pads, and gel packs. After Ease from Earthley Wellness is an all-natural, herbal medicine for after birth pains that WORKS so well!!

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19. Hair Ties/Clip

I always have hair ties or clip my hair up during labor to keep it out of my face- I’m doing hard work, not cute girl stuff!

20. Baby Gear

Newborn homebirth babies only need their mamas- and diapers! Truly, they do not require much first thing. I like to have blankets/swaddles, diapers and wipes, and a few sleepers close by for after birth and the first few nights. Skin to skin is best when possible to help regulate baby’s temperature.

21. Medical Supplies

Any medical supplies your midwife does not provide will need to be purchased. We cannot tell you what she provides or what to buy in case so you will want to have a conversation with her about any supplies you are expected to buy. Some things to ask about are, gloves, vitamin K/eye goop, thermometer, etc.

Birth Tip: You may also want to have supplies ready in case you have a spontaneous birth or your midwife misses your labor for whatever reason. Things like a nasal respirator in case of breathing trouble, scissors to cut the cord (only in case of emergency), and gloves.

22. Entertainment/Snacks for Siblings

If you have other children present but do not wish for them to be in the room when the baby is born you may want to consider having something for them to watch/do and eat while you are laboring. If you want your husband nearby you will definitely want to think and prepare for this beforehand.

23. Rolling Cart

If you are wondering where all this stuff is supposed to go, look no further than a metal rolling cart! This has been a life-saver for my third birth and postpartum season. It can hold all the birth supplies, then shift to a postpartum cart for the next several weeks, then you can use it for whatever you need!

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Midwifery Care: Everything You Can Expect With an Amazing Midwife

June 21, 2025

The midwifery care model has recently become much more popular in the U.S. in the hospital and home both setting. Learn about all the many ways midwifery care is superior in this post….

everything you can expect with midwifery care

Midwifery Care Vs. Obstetrical

The midwifery model of care is so far above what you can imagine if you have only experienced care from an OB. You’re not just getting medical care, you’re gaining a friend in most cases.

Disclaimer: This is not to shame OB care. There are some great ones out there but, even the great ones are limited by hospital policies and office schedules.

While there certainly are great OBs out there many are hindered from offering a more personalized model of care because they are apart of a system. This system tells them how long they should carve out for patient visits, when you should have labs, that you should have your baby by the scheduled time, etc. It limits their ability to offer specialized care in most cases. It limits their use and knowledge of natural care options in many cases.

However, if you need or want to be under the care of an OB, many Certified Nurse Midwives (CNM) work closely with or under an OB. This gives you the direct connection to a doctor should you need it but still more personalized care.

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What We Love About Midwifery Care

1. Personalized Appointments

You are not just a number to your midwife. She will come into your appointment with notes from your entrance paperwork and will continue to take notes at each appointment on your preferences for your care and labor, questions you may have, and how you’ve been feeling. She will also check your prenatal for adequate nutrients.

2. Longer Appointment Times

You can expect your prenatal appointments to last a minimum of 45 minutes. This will depend on factors like if you have more questions, or if it’s your first appointment. My last appointment was 2 hours. I had several questions and also as I mentioned before, you’re gaining a friend usually, in midwifery care. Much of our appointment was spent just learning more about each other.

Midwifery care excels in making sure YOU are the number one priority. Not a schedule or “deadline”. You matter to them. How you’re feeling, the questions you have, the fears (rational or irrational)- your whole wellbeing matters in midwifery care.

3. A Relationship

This is the person that you are going to invite into the most empowering experience yet also most vulnerable time of your life. You get to build a bond of trust with this person and know the support you will have during your labor and birth. You won’t get that with typical OB care. Whomever happens to be working or is on call is who will “deliver” your baby. A stranger in most cases.

When I found my midwife I did not just find an expert to walk me through pregnancy- I found a friend. Someone I can get willing to drop everything to come check my blood pressure on a whim. Someone to call when that postpartum hits hard. A friend to just chat life with.

4. Emergency Expertise of Midwifery Care

In the unlikely event of an emergency, your midwife is trained on how to handle emergency situations that can (though not likely) occur at birth. She will have herbs and Pitocin for hemorrhage, resuscitation equipment for you and baby, and oxygen, among many other tools to help manage an emergency situation. Midwives are trained, professional care providers. You can ask specifically for your midwives credentials during your interview of her.

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5. Concierge Access

Included with midwifery care, is access to your midwife any time. Of course you want to respect her time, as it is as valuable as yours is to you. What comfort though, that if I have a question or worries about my body/baby I have complete access to a trained, and tender caregiver.

Early in my pregnancy I started to feel uneasy, like something was wrong with my baby. Having no other symptoms than those, I hesitantly expressed these concerns to my midwife and she immediately came over to my home to check on us. I didn’t have to wait for a call back or speak with someone besides my care provider and hope they passed my information on to them. What an invaluable resource.

6. Bodily Autonomy in Midwifery Care

While this isn’t completely impossible to have in typical hospital care, in my many hospital experiences outside of birth I have rarely felt respected and that proper informed consent was gained. Having to advocate for yourself while also trying to deliver your baby adds unnecessary stress to an already intense experience. I have found in midwifery care thus far my decisions have always been met with respect and phrases such as “This is your birth, your baby, and your body. I am here to support your journey and honor your deisres”.

There are probably some women’s care providers out there that feel this way, just as I am sure there are some midwives who don’t feel that way. That’s why finding a midwife you can trust and connect with is one of the most important factors in home birth.

7. Freedom to Decline Tests and Procedures

This goes along with bodily autonomy but we thought it deserved it’s own section as many women don’t even know they can choose. Each midwife will have some things they prefer but in most cases everything is optional with homebirth. You can choose what screenings or tests be done on you and your baby and not feel forced because of the threat of denied care with your declination.

8. In-home Appointments

Often midwives conduct all prenatal visits in your own home. This is especially helpful if you already have children as you won’t have to find childcare or bring them to the doctors office for your appointments. All of my visits have been done on my couch, as my toddler attempts to dig through my midwife’s bag and play with her keys.

9. In-home Postpartum and Newborn Visits

Your midwife will most likely be able to conduct your newborn’s first month of visits. One of my favorite perks of midwifery care is not having to pack up my freshly birthed newborn and head off to the doctor one or two days after delivery. Not to mention sit my freshly given birth bottom in a car and drive an hour to our family doctors office.

She will also care for you more closely postpartum as there are often two to 4 visits for you in the first month postpartum. Some midwives even include postpartum care for mom for the first full year after birth.

I (Tori) specifically remember packing up my newborn to go to my six week postpartum visit. What I didn’t realize was that their parking garage was under construction….making me 5 minutes late. I rushed up to the front desk and was told I would not be able to be seen because I was late. I just remember trying to hold back tears as I said, “Okay, thank you.” and walked away with my crying colicky newborn. What they didn’t know- I had been up all night with a crying baby. She had been taking the best nap, the first “good” sleep in days and I had to wake her up to even make the appointment.

The in home after-care is one of the biggest perks to midwifery care in my opinion! Especially as a mom with two other toddlers. Not having to leave my house with everyone is one of the most “seen”experiences I have had in motherhood!

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Home Birth Tips for How to Afford Your Dream Birth

June 7, 2025

Come get all our budget home birth tips! We are passionate about birth, especially homebirth. We believe every woman should have access to birth the way she desires, wherever that may be. Many can feel that homebirth or midwifery care is unattainable for them due to finances. In this post we hope to address that concern and hopefully offer some helpful solutions….

How Home Birth Can Save You Money

It may sound surprising but for many, homebirth actually comes out cheaper than paying for a hospital birth, even with insurance. Homebirth in the U.S. (including prenatal, labor, birth, postpartum, and newborn care) can range anywhere from $3,500 to $7,000. It can be more or less depending upon your location. So for many the price left after insurance for a hospital birth can be well above that of a homebirth.

Budget Friendly Home Birth Tips

1. Health Share

Groups such as Samaritan Ministries or Christian Health Ministries often cover most, if not all homebirth costs through reimbursement. This can be a great option because if you’re already paying for an insurance policy anyway, why not switch to one that supports the desires you have for your healthcare. This will require a bit more planning though, as most health share ministries require purchase of the policy well before pregnancy. We know many find their pregnancy or need of homebirth unexpected so this isn’t a great fit for everyone at all times.

2. Baby Fund.

Have a “baby fund” in place of a baby shower. Instead of traditional baby shower gifts, you can ask for donations to your homebirth fund. Or if you’re not comfortable announcing your plans for homebirth just a “baby fund”.

3. Limit Other Spending

I know we don’t like to get told this, and for some it truly may not even apply. However, I have a hunch that if we search hard enough we could find some places where we’re a little too careless with spending. The little things add up. Like always getting our coffee out when we can make it at home cheaper, eating out for convenience instead of planning better, trips to the salon, the junk food we buy that we don’t really need, having 4 different streaming services or paying for cable.

There are lots of ways to save here and there and remember you typically have until 36 weeks to pay your full balance with your midwife for homebirth/prenatal services. A little discipline can bring some big savings when we add it all up.

4. A Loan

I know this isn’t ideal but there are plenty of things like our homes, cars, and “toys” we are willing to take a loan out for. Birth should be a priority too and if this is the only way to make your homebirth dreams come true then it’s worth some consideration in our opinion.

5. Early Pay Discount

Many midwives will offer an early payment discount if you pay before a certain time or a lump sum discount. This is where you can pay the amount in full for a cheaper price. I saved $1,000 using this option alone for my homebirth.

6. Tax Refund

If your pregnancy and tax season happen to be timed just right, use your refund, or a large portion of it towards your homebirth.

7. Finance Options

Ask your midwife about her finance options and payment plans. Many midwives will work with you on a payment plan.

8. Barter or Trade Services

Some midwives will agree to a bartering system. Where you offer a service to her in return for her services. I’ve seen this done with home projects. If you or your husband are handy around the house, with car repairs, lawn work can lay flooring. Or if you have chickens that give eggs, a farm with meat birds/or beef cattle, you may be able to barter services and goods in exchange for a discount or even full payment in some cases.

9. Personal Fundraising Efforts

Clean out items in your home and have a yardsale. If a yardsale seems like too much work, just post your items on marketplace.

10. Insurance

If you have an HSA, in most cases you can use some of the funds to help cover your homebirth. Negotiate your out of network benefits with your insurance company.

11. Offer Services

House cleaning, babysitting, etc. Do some side work when you are able to stack cash during pregnancy!

We hope these tips help! If you want more home birth tips check out our other posts for home birth mamas and don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss a post. Happy home birthing!

*Written by Anna Bourdess.

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A Wildly Fun Positive Birth Story: Malachi James

June 3, 2025

Our perfect little home birth story! As we welcome our third little baby here in the woods, we are grateful for another sweet, quiet birth at home. While this birth story was anything but uneventful, it was a safe and peaceful birth…

home birth story with a fun twist and lots of surprises!

Birth Story Beginning: A Trying but Healthy Pregnancy

Every fun, crazy birth story has to begin with a long, slightly complicated pregnancy, right?! My pregnancy with baby number three was probably one of my healthiest while also the most challenging. Pregnancy-wise everything was going great, then in January at about seven months along I had a fall that damaged ligaments in my hip and pelvic area. For weeks I was in constant pain just doing daily life things.

I eventually had to see a physical therapist that gave me instructions to keep life as “low-key” as possible (laughable since I am a mom of two toddlers under the age of three!). However, she gave me a few exercises to hopefully strengthen my pelvic area going into labor.

The exercises and the natural increase in relaxin (the hormone that relaxes the ligaments before the body goes into labor) made the last month of the pregnancy much more tolerable!

Mentally, this was by far my easiest pregnancy. Even with the ligament injuries and physical hinderances. I felt amazing otherwise and was just in such a calm place in my mind. I was super nesty and had tons of creative energy!

Procrasti-nestor & Early Labor

Things progressed as usual through the pregnancy. We loved the midwife we had with our second born and first home birth so we definitely chose to work with her again. We plan to keep her for all our future babies if possible!

This was my first full term pregnancy. It looked like the 40 week mark had come and gone with no signs of labor even being close. I had been having a few Braxton Hicks but nothing that made me think labor was going to be any time soon.

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I was totally calm about this and not in any rush. My discomfort level was definitely rising but I was still plenty patient- fine with him taking his time.

Just when it seemed we had gone past the elusive “due date” I began having pretty consistent contractions at around 12am. At three babies I definitely know what is real labor but my main strategy is to ignore early labor and act as if nothing is really happening.

I think this is because if for some reason it was not real labor I would not get my hopes up or be “that person” that calls the midwife on a false alarm.

Regardless, I started doing some random nesting things I had been procrastinating- just case!

At around 3am I decided to get in the bath since it was probably real labor and I would not be sleeping any ways. My contractions were definitely not going anywhere at this point but they were totally manageable, good active labor contractions.

The Bees & Active Labor

My labor continued to progress after I got out of the bath and by around 6am when my husband got up for work they were lasting about a minute with 4-5 minutes between. I had texted my midwife at around 5:30 to let her know things were progressing. We began our pre-labor task list making sure everything was ready. I got in bed around 6:30am and tried to relax through each surge.

By this point in my labors I do not speak. I get very focused on just relaxing each part of my body, making it through the contractions. My husband knows this so he did not bother to tell me why he was in our closet, getting into the attic. But I was busy and really could care less what the world was doing at that point.

I was mid-contraction he came out of the closet swinging, saying something about bees! Apparently bees had gotten into the attic access and when he went to get our infant car seat down in case of emergency transfer (I told you, we’re procrastinators!) it stirred them up.

He was able to get things under control without letting any bees out of the closet or getting stung himself! My hero!!

The Communication Barrier & Transition

As I mentioned before, by later active labor, but especially in transition, I do not speak. Even between contractions my communication is very limited and the things I try to say I just honestly can’t get out well. At about 7:45am I felt like transition was starting to happen so I had my husband text the midwife. She started getting ready and heading out way (a 20 minute drive).

During this time things started to pick up fast. I was no longer timing contractions as I was just trying to relax through the intensity and catch my breath in between. Jimmy was able to recognize transition was taking place and began getting the birth pool inflated and filled.

And that’s when I had the sudden urge to push.

I argued with myself that I was just getting ahead of the game. My transition with my oldest two lasted several hours. I told myself, “It’s not time yet, you’ve only had like four transition contractions. Chill out, Tori!”

But the urge to push was happening with each contraction! However, I was still in complete denial mode and refused to believe this was actually really going to be over so quickly.

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The pool was still filling, just over the minimum fill line. I asked if he would help me get in. So between contractions we got me up and in the pool. This was when I knew was for sure pushing this baby out!

I managed to tell Jimmy, “I think I’m pushing.” (Because while I know exactly what my body is doing I am still in complete denial!). The midwife is still not on scene, since it’s only about 8am. Jimmy decided to call her at this point. Except she is on her way coming down the windy country roads to our house…and she lost service.

A Safe Delivery & a HUGE Surprise!

Since I’m still in total denial I decide to reach down and feel. That baby was totally crowning! On the next contraction my water broke and with a good push, a head was delivered! Another contraction soon followed and I caught a sweet, wiggly baby.

I pulled the baby close to my chest and began rubbing to clear the lungs and very quickly a strong, healthy cry was heard. All was well! Our midwife arrived just five minutes after.

The baby was perfectly healthy, safe and snug under a warm towel that I had put in the dryer hours early for this very occasion. I was feeling great, relaxed in the pool, just waiting to deliver the placenta.

After the placenta was delivered the baby and I got in bed, cord still attached to rest while the midwife and her assistant cleaned up then began the newborn/post delivery exam. Just before the exam and cutting the cord my midwife, Jimmy, and my mom were all discussing how much the baby weighed. They asked what I thought.

I decided to pull the towel off a bit so we could look at the baby and guess the weight before the newborn exam- just for fun!

And that is when we all discovered I was not in fact a girl mama…this was a baby BOY!!

From denial to denial, bees in the closet, to delivering my baby- we could not have ended this birth story on a more wild note than an incorrect gender screening! When they tell you that third baby is a wild card they mean it!

Birth Story Conclusion

In conclusion, this was honestly my most fun, crazy, wild birth! My main goal for this birth was to master transition. By “master” it, I mean, be able to stay completely relaxed and calm throughout the entire labor- even transition. While relaxing through took lots more work, I feel like the mission was accomplished!

I was able to go through the entire labor peacefully, smiling often, and in complete control of my responses.

Another goal as I entered active labor was to have this baby by morning, before the girls woke up. While I knew this was completely out of my control, God gave the girls a baby by morning. They woke up just 10 minutes after he was born! I was able to stay calm enough through pushing to keep them asleep- another silent goal I had going into labor.

Everyone pitched in to make sure this surprise boy was clothed in some manly looking clothes! Our little “tribe” came through for us with all the boy things we never expected we would need. We could not be more grateful!

We love you Malachi James, our fun little wild man!

Home Birth Story FAQ

I get lots of questions about home birth in general and several questions regarding this particular birth story. I thought it would be fun to add this section to answer your further questions…

Why do we choose home birth? There are many reasons why we chose to birth at home. The main reason is feeling it is the safest option for us, permitting no complications occur during pregnancy for me or baby. You can read more about why we chose home birth in this post!
Do I have water births at home? Yes, my midwife provides a birth pool at no extra charge, we just purchase the liner and hose. I was not sure I would enjoy a water birth but decided to try it with our first home birth. I have been sold ever since!
Did they not see it was a boy on the ultrasound? The only ultrasound we had was at my confirmation appointment around 13 weeks (too early to tell gender in most cases). We never went back for any sort of anatomy scan since everything looked healthy for me and baby at the initial ultrasound. However, we do like to find out the gender so we did an at home blood test. It came back “GIRL”. We did know there was a very small margin of error on these tests so we actually joked throughout the pregnancy that it could be a boy. Although we thought it unlikely since it had been right about our oldest two being girls as well.
How did we feel when we found out by it was a boy? I would say surprised is the best way to put it! Neither of us felt disappointed at all. It was a major mental shift trying wrap my mind around it for a few days. Our oldest (2) was very confused but both of the girls absolutely their brother!
Was I scared when I delivered him without the midwife? Honestly, not at all. I have well prepared myself mentally on the chance that this ever happened. I know what to do if baby is not breathing right away, how to clear the airway, suction, and infant CPR. I also knew my midwife had to be very close if she lost cell service so that was reassuring.
Did we still have to pay full price? Yes, we still paid our midwife full price. She was right on the scene as quickly as she could be. It was not her “fault” I was in denial, did not communicate, and that transition was much quicker this time than my previous births.
Did you have a boy name picked out already? No, we had no backup name! We came up with Malachi James completely randomly and within about three hours of him being born. We had 10 days to decide a name but refused to call him “Little Buddy” longer than a few hours!
Will you do a blood test again? We do not know for sure but I would say at this point, I would rather not know the gender than have the mental hassle of a surprise gender- even though it was a fun surprise.

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Home Birth Midwife: How to Find the Perfect for You Midwife

May 16, 2025

Finding the perfect home birth midwife is no easy task! Whether you are new to home birth, recently moved to a new area, or are looking for a new midwife for whatever reason we are here with all tips and resources you need on your journey. Plus, stick around to the end to get a free printable questions list!

how to find a home birth midwife and questions to ask for the interview

What is Right for You?

You can’t find a home birth midwife that is right for you if you don’t have an idea yourself of what is right for you.

Take some time and consider what you want for your birth. Are you looking for someone with a very hands on approach? A midwife who wants to walk the whole road of labor right beside you. Do you need/want that kind of guidance or female companionship through your labor?

Maybe you want a hands off approach. A midwife that doesn’t step on the scene until pushing or birth itself, allowing you the space to labor on your own with your spouse in a more intimate labor. Do you want a lot of monitoring or cervical exams? How about prenatal screening? Do you want a provider who “requires” certain tests or exams, or would you like your provider to respect whatever you feel is best for yourself and baby?

Envision what you think you would want for your prenatal care, labor, and birth then search for a provider that aligns with that. All midwives are different even though the model of care should be similar. Finding someone that aligns with you and makes you feel safe and respected is essential for homebirth success.

How to Find Midwives in Your Area

We dove into this topic in a recent post about How to Start Your Home Birth Journey. Knowing where and how to find a midwife can be a daunting task, especially if you are brand new to this process. Here are a few things to consider….

Join groups on Facebook. Join a home birth group on Facebook for your area. This is a great way to get personal recommendations from other like-minded women and find out who is available to you.
Google Search. Many practices and midwives have websites or at very least social media now. A basic Google search for midwives in your area may help you find who you need!
Word of mouth. As you meet and interview midwives, ask them who they know in the area! Midwives often work very closely and many have a large community of other providers they know and trust. If you find midwives you like but they are booked up, unavailable, or too far away ask them who they know!

Using these resources, hopefully you are able to gather a list of several midwives that interest you. Now you can begin the process of setting up interviews!

Setting Up Interviews to Find a Home Birth Midwife

Midwives on your list can usually be contacted via email, website, or phone. As you reach out here is some initial information you will want to include…

Estimated due date. You may or may not know your due date at the time of contacting possible midwives, however knowing a rough estimate or the exact “due date” is helpful. Many midwives are booked out for months and some may not be available to attend your birth. This is good information to get out of the way before going further with the interview process.
Location. Some midwives only service very specific areas. Others are willing to travel quite a ways for a birth. Be sure to offer your location to see if you fit in their scope of care.
Home birth experience. It is also helpful for a possible midwife to know what your past experience is with midwifery care, if any. If you are brand new to this experience she will likely walk you through everything in much more detail than if you have had a home birth in the past and are somewhat familiar with the process.

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The Home Birth Midwife and Her Personality

After interviewing many home birth midwives, and as you interview them, one of the most important things to look for is how well you interact with her. If her personality is off-putting, you feel the least bit uncomfortable, etc. she probably is not the one for you.

A perfect for you midwife should feel like one of the most safe, warm people you have ever met.

This lady is going to be in your most intimate space, walking with you through months of pregnancy, maybe hard decisions, labor, and postpartum. Call me crazy, but I think making sure the chemistry is right is so important. If you feel “off” about her personality wise or even professionally you are not going to trust her judgment with your care.

Transfer Rate

A common question to ask when trying to find a home birth midwife is, “What is your transfer rate?”. Meaning, how many pregnancies/births does she have to transfer to an OB or birth center? How many of these transfers are preventative and how many are emergency?

An experienced midwife with many years of practice SHOULD have some medical transfers whether preventive or emergency.

Often her transfer rate tells a story- very few transfers means she may be willing to take risks you are not comfortable with. Too many transfers may mean she is against all risk. This is where personal preference and communication/questions come in!

Get access to our complete list of questions for your home birth midwife interview when you join our email list below! This midwife interview packet comes with over two and a half pages of questions, tips for your interview, and an interview sheet you can print to help you keep track during your search!

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