I did not know when I got saved as a nineteen year old, unmarried young woman how much I would need God for motherhood. Today, as a young mom of two littles, I cannot even begin to imagine doing life apart from God- especially in this season of motherhood. Together, Anna and I compiled a list of just a few specific areas that knowing Christ has completely made a difference in the area of motherhood. We pray this will encourage you if you are a mother who knows Jesus. You are not in this thing alone! If you do not know Christ, have never trusted Jesus as your Saviour and repented of your sins, we pray this post will bring you to that place of understanding and that you will turn to Him.
-Tori
Salvation
Just knowing Him makes all the difference- in marriage, in motherhood, in all of life! I am no longer the person I was before I knew Jesus. I have the ability, in Him, to face every day, every challenge with peace, joy, and self control. Do I always choose this? No. But do I have this power in Him- yes!!
Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.
John 14:27
Let me paint you a picture. As a nineteen year old girl I (Tori) was lost, confused, and so lonely. You would not know by looking at me. I looked pretty good on the outside. I grew up in church. I was honestly trying to be a good Christian. But I was doing it all apart from Christ. On the inside I was full of sun that I had no victory over. I was dirty and I knew it with no wat to cleanse myself of who I was- believe me, I tried! I was in constant turmoil with, never at rest. That is exactly the mother I would be today if it was not for salvation!
I cannot imagine facing all the challenges of life without a Refuge. Motherhood is beautiful. It is such a joy! Yet, if you are a mother you know that in all that joy there are times of darkness, lonely times, and fearful times. Trying to fathom facing every day life without an Anchor and a Rock is nearly impossible to comprehend!
When little people are coming to you for all the answers, it’s a privilege to have access to The One who actually has all the answers. I can’t imagine trying to raise babies with only my own wisdom to rely on. Salvation makes all the difference in your motherhood journey.
-Anna
Prayer
A benefit of salvation- knowing Christ and living in fellowship with Him, is being able to go to God at any time through prayer. Though many of us do not fully grasp the fullness of this blessing all those who know the Lord would tell you that without prayer life would be impossible. Being able to take anything to Him at any time as a mother brings so much comfort! (Read Hebrews 4:15-16)
I literally cannot imagine motherhood without the fellowship with God through prayer. It makes all the difference on the hard days, when my attitude isn’t what it should be, when things aren’t how I think they should be, when I’m not enough, when I feel lonely. Just the fact that I can take everything to Him- and He’ll never be over-burdened with my crazy mess! As the song says…
“What a privilege to carry everything to God in prayer.”
A Place to Go with all the Decisions
From the beginning of my pregnancy and even before really, my husband and I tried to bathe our baby in prayer.
-Anna
One specific example of the importance of prayer in motherhood/pregnancy in my journey would be our choice to go with a hospital birth for our first baby. We debated between birth center, hospital, and homebirth, and though I wanted as least intervention as possible, I couldn’t get peace about a homebirth or birth center. We felt peace with a hospital birth, and specifically one with a NICU. I’m so thankful that we sought God’s wisdom because He knew where we needed to be. I ended up with PROM and delivered my preemie at 36 weeks.
Learning to Lean on God Through the Power of Prayer as a Mother
Learning to lean on God through the power of prayer makes all the difference. Taking everything to Him throughout your pregnancy, birth, the newborn months, and everything beyond!
Prayer literally carried me (Tori) through labor. Not in a creepy or mystical way. Just knowing that someone who has gone through the most intense pain, the Maker of my body, and the one in complete control was with me.
Motherhood can get the label of being lonely. I get it, I’ve absolutely been there. But what if all the times you seemed lonely were the beckonings of a Holy God looking to commune with you. Instead of crying in the loneliness, what if you drew closer to The Father?
Mama, if you don’t know Jesus, TRULY know Jesus. If you have never turned from sin and asked Him to save you, then you have no access to Him in prayer. No matter how “good” you are. If you have never trusted in Him to be your everything you have no Lifeline in this crazy world of motherhood.
-Tori
Your Ministry of Prayer
Prayer isn’t just a privilege, although it certainly is! Prayer as a mother is your ministry. If you do not take the initiative to pray for your babies, who will?
There is great power in a mothers prayer. Not that mothers have some greater position with The Lord. But there’s something about the travail of a mama praying for her babies. That great love being poured out in an earnest plea before The Lord for her babies, and her home. It’s a passion unrivaled, in my opinion.
-Anna
The Bible
My Bible is EVERYTHING in motherhood! From the time that little line turns pink, through pregnancy, labor, and mothering littles- it has held me, carried me, guided my every step, and has never failed to help me mother my children.
We all hear it, “They don’t come with a guide book!” Mama, if you know Jesus, have a Bible, and you read it- THIS IS NOT TRUE! He did not give us these babies and leave us helpless. We HAVE a guidebook!
Whether you feel the effects of the Word in the moment or you feel nothing- read it!! You never know when things will suddenly help you down the road. You will look back after times of struggle and coldness to find that as you were faithful to read Gods Word is what propped you up all along. There are so many promises and directions given to mothers, specifically in The Bible.
This world will try to tell you that you can have your own truth. That anything you want to perceive as truth can be truth. I’m so grateful that’s not the case. I get overwhelmed, confused, and frustrated at times. My emotions can get the best of me. I don’t want to trust in me. It’s a blessing to have God’s Word to come to that I can trust in and get guidance. Trying to navigate motherhood without it would end in disaster.
Self Sacrifice
In being a mother, you are laying your needs and desires down to serve your family. It’s easy to fall prey to the snare of selfish desire and discontentment if you let your flesh lead. But if you’ll walk daily with The Lord and follow as He leads, you’ll find He’ll show you a beautiful mirror of how He cares for you in how He is teaching you to care for your babies. Sacrificing yourself to this calling is the most rewarding and fulfilling task you could ever do in life. Without knowing The Lord you can never understand the depth of dying to yourself daily and the fulfillment that comes with it. When following Him, it won’t even feel like a sacrifice as He makes your joy in Him so full! (Read Philippians 2:4-8)
Fruit of the Spirit
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
Galatians 5:22-23 KJV
Do any of you Mamas ever need to be gentle or longsuffering in your motherhood journey? Yeah, that’s what I thought. How about love? Do you think love is essential in motherhood? All of the fruits of the Spirit are essential in motherhood. Trying to operate as a mother without Christ in your heart will produce burnout, frustration, and even resentment towards your family. Salvation is the most important decision you will make, and it will affect your entire home in ways you can’t begin to imagine.
The Church
I see women online all of the time looking for “their tribe” or trying to find friendship in motherhood. It’s an issue I never even realized was a problem for women because I’ve always been a part of a local church. I’ve built life-long relationships through being joined with the body of believers. If you’re not saved, you won’t feel that pull to God’s people. You’ll find you’re more comfortable with secular friendships. This will open up your children to secular influence at a very young age. Much before they’re able to “handle it” like you. This will cost your home a great price. More than you even realize in this moment.
The church is a priceless blessing as a mama. If you have littles you may feel like it is just not worth it right now. I’m sad to admit, I’ve been there. But it is so worth it! The fellowship of likeminded believers, mama’s just like you, and sisters who share in our struggles is a precious thing to be apart of! Raising our babies around people who truly love them (because they know God they know what true live is!!) is something you just can’t find anywhere else in the world.
We hope if you are a Christian that these things serve as reminders and encouragement for you in your motherhood journey! Never take for granted what we have in Christ. Let these things be your source of strength today, Mama. We have it all in Him!
-Anna and Tori
