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How to Make Gut Healing Bone Broth From Scratch

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This gut healing bone broth is rich in vitamins and minerals that help promote a healthy microbiome for optimum health! Whether you have serious health issues, just need a little extra boost for your gut, or simply want a new super healthy soup recipe you have come to the right place. Continue reading this post for more information on how this bone broth will benefit you or skip on down to the recipe!

Bone Broth and Gut Health

Let’s talk real quick about just how this bone broth works when I say that it is “gut healing”.

  • Magnesium. Magnesium is a key ingredient in bone broth. It has a very important role in digestive health such as helping move food through the digestive system, controls inflammation of the gut, helps relieve constipation, and promotes the growth of healthy bacteria in the gut.
  • Potassium. Potassium is also found in bone broth. It helps signal the brain to move the muscles in the digestive tract to help food move through efficiently.
  • Collagen. The super ingredient that makes bone broth gut healing is collagen. Collagen comes in many forms today but among the most healthy is directly sourced collagen found in the bones of beef and chicken. Beef collagen contains high levels of amino acids that strengthen and aid in rebuilding of the colon. It also assists in water absorption, balances stomach acid levels, and heals ulcers in the digestive tract.
  • Gelatin. Bone broth also contains gelatin which helps to heal AND prevent inflammation in the gut lining making this bone broth great for keeping issues away as well as healing already present problems.

Who should use bone broth?

Bone broth is especially good for those who have health issues concerning the gut. IBS, UC, Chron’s and other digestive diseases/disorders may greatly benefit from using bone broth, along with a well balanced diet. Individuals with food intolerances to things like gluten, dairy, etc. may find that bone broth can help after being exposed to foods that harm them.

Because of the preventative nature of bone broth I highly recommend adding bone broth as a staple in your family’s diet! I like to up our intake around stressful seasons or sick seasons to boost our gut health. Your gut greatly effects the health of every other part of your body- the immune system being one of them. Bone broth, along with other good sources of probiotics in sourdough (learn how to make your own sourdough starter here!), fermented veggies, and supplements is always a great idea during seasons when you may need some extra support.

Sourcing Good Ingredients for Bone Broth

Why make bone broth from scratch?

You may be thinking- “Why can’t I just go buy the $2 bone broth from the grocery store and call it good?”. If you have been around long you know that I am huge advocate of all things “from-scratch”. Not because it is trendy or because everyone says it the best but because I have a conviction that it truly is what is best for us!

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Maybe this idea is new to you. Maybe it intimidates you! Perhaps you really do not care and that is completely your call.

That being said, here are a few reasons to think twice about grabbing bone broth from off the shelf instead of making it from scratch…

  • Removal of the natural structure. The process of mass production of bone broth greatly tampers with the natural structure of the broth. In other words, the gut healing properties mentioned above (magnesium, collagen, etc.) are no longer the same in quality or quantity- if they remain at all.
  • Adding of preservatives. Along with removing a lot of the good stuff the mass production companies add things like preservatives, chemicals, and toxins to keep the broth shelf stable for months and years.
  • It tastes better. Now maybe it’s just my semi-crunchy brain playing tricks on me but I truly do think that homemade broth tastes much better compared to the mass made brands. Knowing where it came from, how it was made, and every step from bone to broth- the peace of mind tastes amazing!

Sourcing Bones

The very best way to source organic, quality bones is to raise your own cow or meat chickens.

But let’s be honest- most of us cannot do that.

So the second best option is to buy a cow, or half a cow, from your local farmer. Ask what the cow is being fed, and make sure they use a small town (not large production) butcher. A lot of the labels in grocery stores these days have gotten extremely tricky. Words like- “organic”, “grass-fed”, and “pasture raised” have become so commercialized. The best way to make sure you are getting quality meat is to support your local farmer or homesteader.

That being said, this can be a big expensive up-front. Maybe you just do not have the means to be able to afford the best option. Between the best and the worst there is always a “better” option! Maybe you can not afford the half cow, go ask your grocery store butcher for bones! Many local grocery stores with in house butchers are more than happy to sell you the bones. True, they might not have been fed 100% organic grains but it is still FAR BETTER than purchasing the processed broth.

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Using Bone Broth to Heal Your Gut

Using bone broth as an ingredient or for preventative maintenance versus to heal your gut looks a bit different. There are a few steps/procedures you need to know about using broth to optimize gut healing.

Cleansing Remgiment

My husband suffers from ulcerative colitis. That is partly what lead me into my study and knowledge of bone broth in the use of gut healing. After researching the side effects of a medication my husband was taking for his UC we decided that the long term effects were not worth the short term benefits. (DISCLAIMER: I am not a doctor and am in no way suggesting you come off your medication. Everyone must do their own research, communicate with their healthcare professionals, and do what is best for themselves.)

As part of this decision came the responsibility to treat the disease with diet and to handle flare ups naturally. He has been off all medication for almost two years now and we have gotten through many flares by following this regiment…

  1. Find the source and eliminate triggers. The first thing to do is to find the source of the flare. Gut health can be greatly affected by stress, sleep, and diet. Some of these you may not be able to control but do your best to find the cause anyways. (My husband’s greatest triggers are any form of unnatural sugar, processed foods/fast food, caffeine, and stress.) Do your best to eliminate the cause.
  2. Cleanse the gut. The next step is to “de-stress” your gut. You do this by offering food that is easy for the digestive system to handle. Give it a break. During a flare things like smoothies, bone broth, and lots of water are the main go tos. (Smoothies and bone broth often replace 2/3 of my husband’s meals- he will often do this cleansing step for 4-7 days.)
  3. Rebuild the gut lining. After eating mostly broth/smoothies for several days the next step is to re-introduce foods that promote a healthy gut. High protein/low carb, broth, and fermented foods are a great place to start. These support the growth of healthy bacteria in the gut and helps to gut lining to be restored to optimum health. Continue to avoid triggers! It can be tough but worth all the benefits.

Herbs that Optimize the Healing Process

Along with the natural things found in bone broth that help aid the healing of the digestive tract herbs are another great way to help symptoms of poor gut health. We like to add herbs such as yarrow, turmeric, garlic, ginger, cayenne, and oregano are all great to add to the broth. Here is a quick guide to herbs that are great for gut repair…

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  • Yarrow. You do not hear about yarrow much but I came upon it in my studies as a way to stop the bleeding from my husband’s UC. Yarrow is also an antiseptic which is great if you are dealing with ulcers because it can quickly stop bleeding and keep the tissue from becoming infected/inflamed further. Yarrow is also extremely easy to grow indoors throughout the winter and thrives well in most outdoor climates during the summer.
  • Cayenne. Along with yarrow we always add cayenne to our gut healing bone broth. It fights infections, heals ulcers, and eliminates unhealthy bacteria in the gut lining.
  • Garlic. Garlic greatly aids the production of good bacteria in the gut making it a great way to add healing, as well as flavor to your broth.
  • Ginger. Ginger helps to aid in digestion and ease the pain associated with digestive issues.
  • Turmeric. This spice contains an anti-inflammatory agent known as curcumin. It provided healing on a cellular level.
  • Oregano. Oregano is another herb that helps reduce inflammation in the gut. It also provided amazing flavor to bone broth.

Any combination of these herbs are a great way to “boost” your bone broth!

Gut Healing Bone Broth

A start to finish guide on how to make your own gut healing bone broth from scratch.
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Prep Time 10 minutes
Cook Time 8 hours
Total Time 8 hours 10 minutes

Equipment

  • 1 large stockpot
  • 1 mesh strainer

Ingredients
  

  • Beef or chicken bones SEE NOTE ONE
  • Water SEE NOTE ONE
  • Veggies on hand or scraps OPTIONAL
  • Desired seasonings SEE NOTE TWO

Instructions
 

  • Fill a large stockpot with bones, veggies, and water. Water should come about six inches above the contents of the post. This would be true if you are making a small batch as well. I prefer to season the broth after the straining process but you can add some salt now.
  • Bring water to a heavy boil, then lower heat to a simmer.
  • Allow to simmer for 8-10 hours with the lid on, adding about a cup of water every hour or two. (This will help keep up with the water that is being evaporated.)
  • Allow broth to cool for about two hours.
  • Using a mesh strainer, strain the liquid off the bones and veggies. (If beef is used dogs can eat the remaining bones. Chickens love the veggies!) I like to strain it into a large pot, it makes the next step easier.
  • Reheat the strained broth in a large pot. Add in desired seasonings. Bring to a boil and simmer 15-20 minutes.
  • Pour hot broth into quart mason jars and tightly screw on lid. SEE NOTE THREE.
    Or allow to cool and place in freezer safe ziplock bags. SEE NOTE THREE.

Notes

NOTE ONE: This recipe is designed to give you the tools and information you need to be able to make bone broth from scratch. It does not give exact measurements to bones/water or an exact amount of broth because results may vary depending on how many bones you have available. That being said, you can make this recipe by using left over chicken bones from your whole chicken or t-bone scraps or in mass quantity from butcher beef bones. I am simply giving you the tools to use how your situation requires. 
NOTE TWO: See the section on gut healing herbs for herbs to add to your broth to optimize healing broth!
NOTE THREE: Pouring the hot broth into the mason jars creates a seal around the jar for longer short term storage. Meaning- you can store this in the refrigerator for up to six months. For long term (up to three years), shelf storage you will need to pressure can the broth after jarring it. Follow the instructions found in your pressure canner manual. You can also freeze the broth for use up to twelve months. 
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Pain Management Tips for an Unmediated Birth Experience

DISCLAIMER: We understand that medical intervention is truly needed at times, and we are thankful for it. In no way do we believe that women should never have c-sections or never have epidurals. There is a time and a place for such things. Our core belief is that birth is a natural process and is over medicalized in the culture we live in. We want you to take back control of your births, make informed decisions, and be empowered by your birth experience, not traumatized. We truly believe that Mamas know best and desire you to be educated and fully informed about the decisions you make so you can make the best one for yourself and baby. However there is absolutely NO SHAME in whatever beautiful birth experience you have!

-Anna and Tori

Techniques for Pain Management

Going into a natural birth with all the possible pain management techniques in mind is so beneficial! Let’s put it this way, you are here to get a job done. If a plumber or electrician came to your home to accomplish a job but had no tools- no job would be getting done.

In other words, it’s time to load up your tool belt ladies!!

That’s exactly what this post is meant to do for you. To give you all the tools you need to get this incredible, hard, and beautiful job DONE!

Breathing Techniques

Your breathing is one of the key necessities to having a natural, unmediated birth experience. Every breath you take sends more oxygen to your baby. Every breath helps your body bring this baby down and out.

You want to be breathing down. Helping your body get baby in position. A low moaning can help with breathing and managing each surge. Low tones have been proven to help relax the pelvic floor. This is going to sound funny but making a low toned “moooooooo” will help you achieve this. Philip (Anna’s husband) stood behind me often in labor low tone mooing like a cow to remind me to breathe down. It offered comedic relief as well as productivity as I helped baby engage.

Practice your breathing techniques before you go into labor. Laboring is a marathon, and to be successful, you need to train for it. It may feel silly practicing them at home before labor, but besides counter pressure, this was my biggest help during labor.

-Anna

There are many videos you can look up on how to practice breathing. Do not overthink it, the main thing is to just make sure you ARE breathing. When you are in pain it is normal to hold your breath- but holding your breath also means you are not relaxed. Think of getting burned by your curling iron or oven. First you hold your breath and then everything in you tenses.

Another thing to keep in mind is to take deep/full breaths. During transition (the last leg of your labor journey) you will find it very difficult to keep a good, steady rhythm with your breathing. I (Tori) actually went completely numb in my arms and face because I started breathing too quickly and shallow.

You may find yourself in early labor thinking, “I’ve so got this!!” when it comes to breathing well. Just remember that towards the end it will likely change. This just means you are getting that much closer- keep breathing!

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Relaxation

Along with breathing this is likely the biggest key to making it through unmediated birth. You can also find ways to practice this BEFORE you are actually in labor. I highly recommend the BRADLEY method when it comes to learning how to fully relax your body (you can find a link to the book in the list of things to purchase for an unmediated birth).

Whatever position you choose to labor in, always think “head to toe”. Start at the top of your head and physically, consciously relax every muscle in your body. Forehead, eyebrows, mouth, jaw, shoulders, etc.

Not only does this help everything to stay relaxed but it also gives your mind something to focus on other than the pain which ultimately helps KEEP you relaxed.

Open mouth breathing. Your jaw affects your pelvic floor, so a tight jaw means a tight pelvic floor, which means more difficult delivery. Keep your body open and relaxed as you progress. Envision your baby engaging into your pelvis and how your body can support that.

-Anna

Meditation and Affirmation

Meditation and affirmation are a great way to distract your mind during labor. People do this many different ways. Some ways I (Tori) have implemented this during my labors are…

  • Meditating on Scripture.
  • Imagine myself somewhere else. (A field of flowers, swimming, just let my mind drift.)
  • Reminding myself that, “My body was made to do this.”
  • Envisioning each part of labor- what my body was doing, what my baby was doing, how our bodies were working together. This takes effort on your part to LEARN these things!

Stay Hydrated

This may sound silly but staying hydrated really does help on so many levels. The last thing you may feel like doing during labor is drinking a lot of water. However, keep these facts in mind…

  • Water delivers tons of oxygen to your body to keep up good blood flow which is super important for you and your baby during labor.
  • You are running a marathon! You have to give your body fuel to keep going.
  • Water will make you need to pee. Duh, Tori!! But really, the midwives call the toilet the “dilation station”. Sitting in a squatted position, like on the toilet, opens your pelvis up to 30% wider! This can cause some intense contractions so be prepared. However, if things begin to slow in your labor or stop progressing ask your doctor to give you an extra hour and some water before trying any med interventions, it might just work!

Water

Along with drinking water, you may also want to consider getting in the water if you are physically able to do so. Water has provided me SO MUCH relief with both of my labors!

With my first I desperately needed some relief mid-labor. As mentioned before I lost control of my breathing and began to feel very numb, dizzy, and just super exhausted. I was dilated at a seven and not progressing much. I was getting discouraged. Long story short, a good, hot shower was just the thing to give me that extra boost of energy I needed to make it through!

My second baby I started and ended my labor soaking in a nice, warm bath tub/birth tub!

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Counter Pressure

This is another great option that really gets your birth partner involved. During a contraction when things start to really “pressure up” on the inside it can be so relieving when pressure is places on the outside! Have your husband/support person or a nurse gently but firmly press into your lower back by squeezing your hips on either side (there are a lot of how-to videos out there if you are confused!).

Counter pressure was the absolute best! It helped dull my contractions so much!

Anna

Counter pressure can also be done with tennis balls or a massage gun.

My (Tori) husband also helps by holding me from behind, placing pressure on the lower front of my abdomen, right around my pelvic area. This gives great support and relief!

I find that counter pressure works really well in early/mid labor for me but something switches during transition and it is no longer helpful. You may want to prepare yourself (and support person) for this! Make sure you communicate when it is no longer helpful to you.

Heat

This one may seem a bit odd but hear me out! I (Tori) had back labor with both babies which feels a lot like period cramps I would get as a teen. My mom would always bring me a heating pad to lay on and it helped tons!

Fast forward to years later laying in the hospital bed, halfway through labor and the resemblance to the period back pain hit me. I asked the next nurse that came to check in if they had a heating pad and they did! It was a great relief to have during labor as well as for after when my tired muscles were recovering.

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Things that Help Manage Pain

We both highly recommend having a lot of tools in your belt- mental tools and physical ones! We compiled a list of things (tools) we brought/used during labor to help us manage pain…

  • Birth class. Not just the one provided by your OB or hospital! If you want a natural, unmedicated birth knowledge is your best friend!! Find a birth class that is designed specifically to help you navigate the challenges of natural birth.

There are plenty of videos you can watch or books you can read, but I highly and, I mean, highly recommend purchasing a birth class for you and your husband. Look around and find one that will support what you’re desiring out of your birth. My husband desperately wanted to help me and was so happy to take a course with me to learn what he could do during labor. We practiced laboring positions, counter pressure, and all the ways he could support me. We absolutely felt silly doing them in our home and laughed our way through a lot of the labor positions. It was fun, really. In doing this before, though, when the time came, we knew exactly what we could do. Being informed is your greatest tool to natural birth success.

-Anna
  • Bradley Method book. I (Tori) have not found any resources that have helped me as much as this book has when it comes to teaching my body to relax during labor. The visual aid it gives on what is happening during labor is also a GREAT resource! Click here to purchase.
  • Heating pad.
  • Labor comb. This was one of my (Anna) favorite tools during labor. I found it extremely helpful to help distract my mind during my more intense surges. I purchased a specific “labor comb,” but any comb will work. I do suggest it be wooden, though. The infant hair care set I had purchased included one very similar that I could have used.
  • Birthing ball/peanut ball. I (Anna) used the birthing ball that the hospital provided for me. One thing to consider is if you’re short like I am, the one at the hospital (if they provide one) may be too large for you. I would suggest bringing your own and leaving it in the car. Just in case you needed it.
  • Massage gun/tennis balls for counter pressure. I (Anna) used the massage gun for a very brief time, but it was nice during some of the milder surges to use on my upper back to distract from what I was feeling in my lower back. I tried tennis balls as well and personally didn’t prefer it as much as counter pressure/other labor techniques, but for a few dollars and an old sock, it was worth bringing to try. I will still bring it for my next labor because each labor can be so different.
  • Essential oils and diffuser. Scents can really set the mood and help your mind/body navigate labor. You will want to bring calming oils like lavendar and frankincense. Another good one to bring is some kind of citrus (like orange) that can provide a little burst of energy for that last stretch of labor.

Mindsets for a Successful Natural Birth Experience

If we are being honest, none of the things we talked about so far in this post matter if your mindset is not what it should be when it comes to wanting an unmedicated birth. Mindset is not just the key- it is the car that gets you there! Your mindset is everything.

Labor is almost one hundred percent a mind battle. Train your mind, and spend time readying yourself for the journey. You can absolutely do this. You were created to do this. You are stronger than you think you are. The Lord equipped you with everything you need to bring this baby into the world.

Anna

Here are a few things that helped shape our mindset….

This pain is different. It is productive. Think of the worst pain you have ever gone through. Maybe it was breaking a bone, getting a bad burn, tearing a muscle. The world would try to make you believe that having a baby is a thousand times more painful than these experiences. I am here to tell you it just is not the same! All of this “pain” you feel is here to bring you the most wonderful thing! Every contraction brings your baby closer to you. Every push means you are one step closer to meeting your baby!

Don’t think of it as pain. Rewire your mind to say “surges, waves, intensity, pressure, etc.” It is not pain. This is not a torture to endure to the end so you can get your prize. You are going on a journey with your baby. You are going into the forests of labor, and you’re going to bring your baby back with you when you return.

Birth is an empowering experience. Train your mind. You don’t have to buy into a culture that says it’s something that should be numbed. It’s an essential part of your journey into motherhood, in my opinion.

Anna

Your body is working for you. This was an essential part of developing my entire mindset around unmedicated birth. The fact that every part of my body and my baby’s body is designed- ON PURPOSE -for me to do this is mind blowing! Your body was made to do this.

Research what truly happens during birth from natural minded professionals. Watch how your body and baby will work together. It’s absolutely amazing to see how God designed this miracle to take place. When you have an understanding of what will be happening, it helps you envision your baby dropping into your pelvis and to know how to move your body to support that.

Anna

I know I have already referenced the book twice but let’s make it three! The Bradley Method book goes into great detail about how your body works to bring your baby down and how your baby’s body works to come out. This book also has great graphics for those of us who are more visual learners.

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When you think “I can’t do this”, you are almost there! Going into birth with the previous stated mindsets and the knowledge of how medicated birth could harm my baby gave me such great confidence…right until the very end! As the surges began to build and the pressure began to feel impossible I suddenly began to think, “I just don’t know if I can do this.”

Which is funny on one hand because I had no other choice! (You can read my full birth story here about how I was unable to have the option for an epidural.)

However, as soon as I began to think this thought things began to ramp up and soon it was all over, holding my sweet baby. When you begin to think these thoughts just remember, you have come this far! You are so close to being done!

I found this so true. I started doubting myself, wondering if I was really going to be able to do this. Thirty minutes later, I was holding my baby. I remember repeating in my mind “Tori said when I don’t think I can do it I’m almost done” over and over and over. Turned out she was right.

Anna

*Note: I (Tori) never remember having this feeling or doubt with my second baby. I had done it. I KNEW I could do it! That is why I am such a big believer in having your first baby unmedicated. It gives you so much confidence for future labors!

When Your Unmedicated Labor Plan Goes Wrong

I would like to add this, not to discourage anyone or make you think that having a natural labor is impossible, because it is NOT! However, should the need arise for you to need, or even, want a medicated labor I think it is important to note that you have not failed. Your body has not failed.

With my (Tori) firstborn I had my hopes dashed as we were told that I would need to be induced. We went through all the risk versus likelihood of my situation and it just made logical sense. The baby would have to come early with medical interventions beginning my labor. This was not the plan. It definitely made me feel like I had already failed before I started in many ways. Everything worked out in the end and I am so thankful for the unmedicated experience I was given- it truly was a gift from God straight to me!

I said all that to say, if things do not work out how you have planned, trust God’s plan for your birth! Maybe you have to be induced (I would still definitely have all the conversations around this- most inductions are not medically necessary. Know your research!), maybe something happens during labor that warrants immediate c-section. Your birth is beautiful no matter what happens and the safety of you/your baby matters most in the end!

Whatever experience is yours, embrace it! It is yours.

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Living Today Like Your Husband Died Yesterday

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But the younger widows refuse: for when they have begun to wax wanton against Christ, they will marry; Having damnation, because they have cast off their first faith. And withal they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not. I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully. For some are already turned aside after Satan. 

1 Timothy 5:11-15

When I started reading these verses the other day I had a few questions on my heart and as I read The Lord answered these questions. For a very long time society has sold us lies. Television and now social media have shaped our thinking to become so warped in ways we don’t even realize. One of these things is how close in friendship and relationship we should be with people outside our home.

As women we watch Hallmark movies showcasing the starlett and her best friend, who are interconnected in every way. They share every detail of life and bear their souls one to another. We’ve been made to feel this is the goal and if we don’t have it we are missing out. But as women when we do have interconnected relationships how do we handle them? 

What I’ve found as a woman is that most female relationships have a tendency, if not kept in check, to run this way: 

And withal they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not. 

1 Timothy 5:13

If we as women are honest with ourselves we have to be guarded and careful, but our society takes everything in I Timothy 5:13 and praises it.  

Here are some definitions of these words according to the Strongs Concordance: 

Idle – inactive, i.e. unemployed; (by implication) lazy, useless 

Tattlers – (to bubble); a garrulous (talkative; pratting [One that talks much to little purpose, or on trifling subjects – Websters 1828]) person 

Busybodies – working all around, i.e. officious (Busy; intermeddling in affairs in which one has no concern – Webster’s 1828 [meddlesome]) 

How many times have we been pushed to be inactive in our homes? We all have cell phones in our hands, TVs on our walls, every appliance keeps us from working harder than necessary. We are encouraged to stop and stop often. Or we are pushed to be overactive outside of our home as if we do not have a job – unemployed. We are encouraged to give 200% just not in the God-given place we should be. 

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We are also encouraged to over share about subjects that have no substance or value. How often have you gotten a history lesson about someone’s life you never met or someone you are going to meet? Gossip is praised and looked at as just a normal female activity. But all of these things indicate one thing – your husband has died and is no longer available to keep you occupied in productive ways. You have no home to manage. 

This really hits home for me. I’ve felt a bit guilty for not reaching out more or not longing for female fellowship more but I also felt as if a lot of female fellowship brings out negative tendencies in my life and I don’t want to hinder others so I step back. Limited fellowship has been a blessing and benefit as I form deeper, godly relationships. In the limited fellowship I find myself more guarded with my tongue and more prayerful about my response. I find myself encouraging and being encouraged, but in the relationships that have ever had full, free access there is a tendency to not keep myself in check and to leave those interactions over thinking everything I said, knowing that I had crossed lines. In that time frame I have not been concerned with the needs of my home and family. I’ve lived like I’ve had no accountability or authority in my life. 

When we look at Titus 2 about the aged women’s instruction to the younger women we see first thing that she is told to watch her behavior. It wasn’t about what she could say with her mouth. It was about what she could live with her life. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that the first thing she is told to be in her behavior is holy and then directly following, she’s not to be a false accuser. Her tongue and how she used it were to be directly addressed from the pulpit by Titus. When we come down to what she was to teach the younger women through this behavior of holiness it is to be a keeper at home.  This ties directly into I Timothy 5:13. She was to teach the younger women that they can be fully fulfilled in their own home. How is that done? By her being fully fulfilled in hers. She had to set the example to follow. 

This was not an example of laziness, talking too much about nonsense, or being the town or church gossip. She was to be directed by Titus as an aged woman not be a false accuser – a traducer; specially, Satan—false accuser, devil, slanderer (TRADU’CER, noun One that traduces; a slanderer; a calumniator. CALUMNIATOR, noun One who slanders; one who falsely and knowingly accuses another of a crime or offense, or maliciously propagates false accusations or reports. – Websters 1828) 

Only by not being a false accuser could she live up to the qualifications to teach the younger women to love their husbands and children. 

I said all of that to simply say- it’s okay to be a wife who enjoys her family and doesn’t have a ton of friendships, or even one, that takes up her daily time and attention. It’s okay to be so busy at home that you have to say, “No thank you!” to personal invites without guilt. It’s okay to go home when conversations start turning to tattling, busybodiness, or false accusation. It’s okay to find your refuge, joy, and fulfillment in your home, husband, children, and most of all The Lord. 

Having friends is not wrong. I am blessed with more friends than most people and I believe that is because they are limited in time and access. Friendship can become wrong when we are investing in those friendships as if we do not have anything to invest in at home. The Proverbs 31 woman is an amazing example used for us women a lot. Do you know what we don’t find in that passage? Her friends. I’m sure she had some. But, she was a queen who was busy running a castle. She had a husband, children, maidens to direct, goods to sell. She was busy. She was invested in the needs of her household first. 

This world tries to tell us that men are stupid, children are inconvenient, homes are to be picture perfect but not really lived in. That the only ones who get us are our friends and other women. That we can learn more at the feet of women than at the feet of Jesus. The world is wrong. I don’t want to live like my husband is dead. I don’t want to have a lifestyle that is indicative of a widow without authority and boundaries. I don’t want to treat my marriage as if it’s so secondary I need others to fulfill the voids, or treat my children like they are a bother to my life.

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It’s time to rise up and find the place God made for us. It will go against the grain of this world and even most Christian women. It’s time to rise up to enjoy our homes and to invest more heavily in our marriage than in our friendships. It’s time to find our place at Jesus’ feet and not at the feet of those who we long to gossip with. Lord, please help me and forgive me for my ignorance all these years. 

But as touching brotherly love ye need not that I write unto you: for ye yourselves are taught of God to love one another. And indeed ye do it toward all the brethren which are in all Macedonia: but we beseech you, brethren, that ye increase more and more;  And that ye study to be quiet, and to do your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you; That ye may walk honestly toward them that are without, and that ye may have lack of nothing.

1 Thessalonians 4:9-12

To all my godly friends that give counsel, take counsel, point me back to my husband, point me to God’s Word, and truly love me for who I am without false accusation, thank you!!! Thank you for serving The Lord first, your family second, for knowing your limits, and when to simply say, “I’m sorry, but I’m busy at home right now. I’m with my family.” I learn how to love The Lord more my watching you!!

With much love, 

Kate Ledbetter

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Hospital Bag Essentials: Everything You Need for an Amazing Hospital Birth

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Packing a hospital bag can be fun and honestly, overwhelming! As your big sisters in all things birth, labor, and baby- Anna and I thought it would be fun to combine our lists of hospital birth must haves. We hope this helps you as you prepare for your little one to arrive earth-side!

Tips for Packing Your Hospital Bag

1. Pack Early

It is recommended to have your bag ready to go by around the 36 week mark, simply because you never know what will happen. As two ladies who did not make it to full term with our babies we highly recommend having that bag packed BY the 36 week mark, if not before. It may be helpful to have a small bag to keep in your car, just for emergency sake.

Pack the bag early. Let people make fun of you, just pack it sooner than you think you need to. Sincerely, someone who went into labor early.

-aka Anna

2. Do not stress.

That being said, if you are approaching the 36 week mark or past it, there is no need to stress! Even if you go into labor early the likelihood that you will still have time to pack your hospital bag is pretty high. Once labor begins, in the early stages it is somewhat nice to have something to occupy your time/mind with.

Even if you have a true emergency and have no time to prepare, this is what family and friends are for! If you find yourself at the hospital with nothing or forget something important, reach out to someone in your support group.

3. Pack ALL the pain management things.

If you are planning on a natural birth experience do not feel bad about bringing anything/everything you think may bring you comfort during labor. You may find that certain things you thought would work for you do not while other things do. If this is your first baby it is likely going to be trial and error. Also, certain points of labor require different measures for pain. This differs for everyone so come prepared.

4. Babies come in all shapes and sizes.

You know this but no baby is the same! And just because the tag says “newborn” does not mean it is going to fit yours. We both would advise you pack 2-3 newborn outfits, and at least one each premie/0-3 month outfit. Even if your baby is measuring small, large, or “normal” size you never truly know until you know.

5. Comfort is key!

The trick to an enjoyable hospital birth experience is making sure you, dad, and baby have everything you need to be as comfortable as possible. This may mean a lot of packing but it is so worth it! If you sleep best with a box fan, bring it! If having your special cozy socks matters, bring them!

6. Let Dad pack the bag.

I have to give all the credit to Anna on this one (or whoever she stole the idea from- THANK YOU!). Since your husband will most likely be the one handing you all the things at the hospital, lay out your things and let him pack the bag. This completely eliminates the need for you to instruct him on where certain things are during labor. Trust me- the last thing you will want to do to your poor husband is get upset when you have to tell him step by step where everything is.

A big tip that I used was let dad pack the hospital bag. You lay out the items you want packed and let him put them in the bag. He is going to be getting the items for you at the hospital and you want him to be able to find everything.

Anna

7. Install the carseat BEFORE hand.

This is one of my (Tori) many regrets! Our birth story was kind of a whirlwind and we both definitely were NOT prepared. So the carseat was a very last minute thing! We honestly just threw all the parts in the car and it was up to my wonderful husband to figure it all out the day we left the hospital. It was not that is was a huge inconvenience, just frustrating and totally avoidable. A very kind nurse helped us figure it out, so should you forget or have questions concerning the safety of your carseat, find a nice nurse!

Everything Mom Needs at the Hospital

Clothing Items

  1. 1-2 actual outfits. In most cases you will be released in 24-48 hours after giving birth to a healthy baby. The majority of your stay you will likely be in labor and will want to be in a gown or nothing at all. Should you need extra clothing someone in your support group will be happy to go get some clothing. (If you are a long ways from home, you may want to consider packing extra outfits, just in case.)
  2. 1-2 gowns. Anna and I highly recommend two gowns, one to labor in and one for after labor. A few things to keep in mind when selecting gowns are- comfort, nursing accessibility (if planning to breastfeed), and know that they will get messy (so nothing super expensive or fancy).

I delivered in a hospital gown but brought my own for postpartum. Looking back I wish I would’ve brought two cheap throw away gowns for labor too. Hospital gowns are annoying. I say two because I needed a change during labor due to some, we’ll just say “labor fluids”. Make sure you get one that has easy access for nursing, and for any medical intervention should it arise.

Anna
  1. Super comfortable nursing bras. This is a must! If this is your first baby you likely have no idea what an actual comfy nursing bra means. Let me help you- super soft, yet supportive. I would definably recommend anything by Mom Cozy brand! So far they are the best I have found. (The jelly strip support is my favorite- click here to check it out!)
  2. Cozy socks.

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Comfort Measures

  1. Your own pillow and/or blanket. This is super nice to have but the hospital will provide you with as many pillows and blankets as you need. If you decide to bring your own just know that they may get messy.
  2. Pain management. We will talk more about this in a coming post but you will want anything that will help keep you comfortable in labor. Anything to manage pain in a natural and even some medicated birth situations is great to have on hand. Some ideas: tennis balls for counter pressure, a labor comb, birthing ball, heating pad etc.
  3. Comfort items. Things to keep you comfortable throughout labor and beyond! Essential oils (and diffuser!) a candle, a speaker for music, a small fan, lights, etc.

Toiletries/Postpartum Care

  1. Deodorant, shampoo, body wash, toothbrush, makeup. All the things you would use on the daily. One of us may have forgotten a hairbrush and probably did not use one for the first week of motherhood (Tori).
  2. Postpartum care. The hospital will provide a lot of this for you but if there is any specific brand you want or special items you will want to bring that yourself. Some items we found helpful during the postpartum period were: adult diapers (STYLISH!), ice pads, nipple ointment, perineum itch spray, breast pads, ice/heat pads for breasts, silverettes, etc. (Click here for my favorite postpartum care set!)

Other

1. Food. Most hospitals follow the no eating in labor policy. You may want to bring a little something to eat during labor, and comfort foods after the fact. Protein drinks may help you keep your strength and energy up during labor.

Some hospitals say you can’t eat during labor (I say do what you want). You can bring protein shakes to help give you energy for birth and still abide by liquids only policy. Do your research on the risks and make your own decision on this one though.

Anna

2. Chapstick. For some reason that dry hospital air, combined with all the heavy breathing makes your lips absolutely parched! Bring some good quality chapstick.

3. Thank you cards. I wish I would have done this! You may not feel like writing a card and that is completely okay! However, if you do and certain members of staff made you feel like a QUEEN, you may wish you had some on hand to express your thanks.

Everything Your Support Person Needs at the Hospital

Your support person is a HUGE part of a great birth experience! You will want to make sure they have a list of what they will need during this time to make sure you and baby are safe and cozy.

  1. 1-2 outfits.
  2. IF you are planning a water birth they will need clothing that is specifically for this.
  3. Toiletry items.
  4. Snacks/drinks.
  5. A copy of the birth plan or wishes. It is very important for the person doing labor with you to know your wants and wishes concerning birth. You will likely not be able to fully communicate with staff very well. Unfortunately, this leads many women into birth experiences that they never wanted. Make sure your husband or whoever is supporting you knows how to advocate for you and your baby! (For this reason we highly recommend making sure your support person is included in any birth classes or education you choose to take.)

Everything Your Baby Needs at the Hospital

  1. Two newborn outfits/ one premie outfit, and one 0-3 month outfit.
  2. Socks.
  3. Swaddles.
  4. Diapers and wipes. The hospital will provide this but if you are wanting a specific brand you will want to bring your own.
  5. Bottle/formula. If you are not planning to breastfeed you will need to bring your own formula and bottle. The hospital will have some on hand if you need it. I suggest doing lots of research on formula. Do not just go with what is recommended!
  6. Swaddles. The hospital will provide plenty of swaddles, but let’s be honest- there are definitely cuter/cozier ones out there!
  7. Pacifier. The hospital will give you one on request but if you have a specific brand or type you are wanting to use make sure to bring that.
  8. Car seat. Make sure you bring the car seat if you want to take the baby home!

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Other Things to Consider

1. Two phone chargers or a battery pack. Having two separate chargers for you and your support person is a great idea!

2. Photo props/outfits. If you are wanting those cute hospital/fresh 48 pics then do not forget to grab the gear!

3. Your birth plan. This is the most important part of having a positive natural birth experience. Make sure you have a written guide of care for the hospital staff. If your nurses and doctors were as amazing as ours they will do their best to support the plan! You just need to make sure it is available to them. As stated before- make sure your support person is also clued in on the plan!

What the Hospital Will Provide for You

This list may be more specific to *your* hospital but it is definitely worth looking into what is provided by the hospital. You will likely still be paying for it as part of your bill but it is nice knowing what is available to ask for should you need it. Here is everything our hospitals provided during our stay…

  • Diapers and wipes for baby.
  • Paci (on request)
  • Formula
  • Food/vending stations
  • Water in a HUGE cup with a straw
  • Diapers/maxi pads for mom
  • Perineum itch spray
  • Ice pads
  • Heating pad
  • Tuck’s witch hazel pads
  • Popsicles
  • Ice (nice during labor)
  • Baby blankets/swaddles
  • Baby bed
  • Baby bath supplies
  • Gown (highly recommend bringing your own- it is more comfortable)
  • Pillows/blankets
  • Socks
  • Hand pump
  • Nipple ointment
  • Mesh underwear
  • Birthing ball/peanut ball

We hope this has been a helpful guide on your birth journey! Do not forget to add these items to your registry if appropriate.

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Hospital or Home Birth? Why I Chose a Hospital Birth

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This is a series of posts that we have dedicated to new moms who desire a natural birth experience! These posts are not written to sway you one way or another but to simply give our experiences, share information we found useful, and to encourage the safest, best birth for you and your baby!

-Tori and Anna

There are so many things that go into choosing the right birth experience for you and your baby. Here, we are going to go through some reasons why I chose to do a hospital birth over a home birth.

1. I had good options for a hospital birth.

In the area where I live, I am within thirty to forty- five minutes of several highly rated hospitals. I researched them all extensively and made the choice that fit my desires best. Some things I looked for were:

  • Low Cesarean birth rate
  • Offered a birthing tub
  • Had policies that encouraged natural deliveries
  • Offered midwife providers
  • “Rooming In” was standard policy (most hospitals do this, but it’s still better to check just so there are no surprises)
  • Access to wireless monitoring so I could move around
  • NICU (so no transfer in an emergency)

Obviously, you may not be able to have all of your desires met, so pick which things are most important to you. The success of your birth has a lot to do with where you choose, so take time when making this decision and do your research.

Read about Anna’s amazing hospital birth here!

2. Hospitals do not make me nervous.

Some women find a hospital setting very intimidating and unsettling. This will add stress and tension to your delivery, not something we want when trying to birth our little one. I spent a lot of time in hospitals throughout my teenage and young adult life due to chronic health issues. Because of this, I am used to them and honestly find them quite comfortable (weird, I know), so being in one for my delivery was a relief instead of a stress. If you find hospitals scary but aren’t sure about a home birth either, there are a few things I would suggest.

Look into a birth center.

This is the middle ground between home and hospital. Just know you most likely won’t have access to an epidural at a birth center, so no changing your mind.

Bring items that would make your hospital experience more cozy.

You can bring fairy lights, your favorite blanket, battery-operated candles, a diffuser for essential oils, and any other item that could help you feel more at ease during your delivery. Remember, tension is not your friend when trying to give birth. You need your body relaxed.

3. I was hesitant about a home birth.

As I previously stated, you need to be relaxed during labor. If it brings you more stress, then it’s probably not the right decision for you. I am a huge supporter of home births. However, every time I considered one for myself, I just felt very uneasy about it. There is no specific reason why, I just couldn’t get peace about it for me.

4. Birth is messy.

This one is more for fun but was definitely a thought I had while making my decision. I know being a “scrunchy” mama I shouldn’t say this so don’t come for me but, I wasn’t sure I wanted to be scrubbing “the miracle of birth” out of the carpet. And to be totally honest, I thoroughly enjoyed pushing a call button and ordering lunch, having help, and being cleaned up after on those first few days postpartum. Yes, I know midwives, birthing doulas, and postpartum doulas can do all of those things. I’m just sharing what worked well for us.

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5. I prayed about it.

I didn’t just make a decision based on my own desires. I took all the information I had gathered and bathed it in prayer before The Lord. I asked Him what was best for us, and He answered. In the end, this is the real reason I chose a hospital birth.

Let me remind you that The Lord knows exactly what He is doing. I ended up with sudden preeclampsia and P.R.O.M. It wasn’t known if my baby would need time in the NICU or not. God led us to the right birth at the right hospital, with a NICU team readily available and THE BEST nurses on staff. So before you make your decision, pray about it. There’s a lot of information out there. He can be the calm in the storm of voices and opinions.

I truly feel like the hospital we chose made all the difference in my birth experience. They honored my request to be left alone as much as possible. They were respectful of all my wishes, kind, and truly honored that parents know best. Because of this, I had an amazing hospital birth! Make sure and do your research. Be informed on your choices. A successful natural hospital birth is still possible even if you don’t have access to facilities that encourage it. The choice is yours to make- not theirs.

Written by Anna Bourdess

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Finding out you are pregnant with your first baby is such an exciting time! It can also be a scary time. So many unknowns, what-ifs, and let’s not even get into allllll the decisions!

That is why me and my long time friend, fellow mom, and co-writer Anna Bourdess have decided to do a series of posts on “What to Do…” throughout your first pregnancy, birth, and postpartum. These posts are formulated to be a simple, informative, and practical guide to your journey into motherhood.

When we first found out we were expecting, one thing that we for sure did not expect was how much information there is on pregnancy and all things baby. To say it is overwhelming seems like an understatement! Everyone has an opinion about this topic. We do not wish to be another voice out there saying what you need to or should do. Our purpose in these posts is to give first time mamas a quiet, peaceful place filled with encouragement, resources, and USEFUL information.

If you have any questions we would love to help you navigate this exciting, scary, and wonderful season of life with you! We are not experts but we have been there.

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The Most Life-Changing Word: Positive

You just found out you are pregnant! By now you have probably taken that first test, and another test, and maybe (if you are a reluctant believer), another test. Who knew that one little word could hold so much emotion- POSITIVE. Whether this is a complete surprise or you have been trying for many months/years can we just take this moment to tell you congratulations!

Motherhood is such a precious joy. You are about to enter a new season of life that will change you forever! You will never be the same person you were before becoming a mama, and all for the better.

After the high/exciting emotions begin to settle you may be left feeling like, “What do I do next?”. This is totally normal. Many of us spend lots of time and energy focusing on getting pregnant but not necessarily researching what to do when it happens. Now that you have that positive result you may be a bit overwhelmed by all the swirling opinions of online articles, family, and friends.

The first thing to do- breathe. You have forty weeks (with some exceptions) to enjoy this sweet little person growing inside you. Your body was made to carry this baby and you can raise him/her well. You’ve got this, mama!

Setting Up Your First Appointment

After that pause, the next thing you need to be working on is scheduling your first appointment- also called a confirmation appointment. Here’s everything you can expect at that first appointment…

  • This appointment will likely be scheduled around eight weeks after your last period date. This can be frustrating because for eight whole weeks you may be wondering, “I am actually pregnant?”. If you have taken a reliable test, a second test a few days later, and begin to have symptoms of pregnancy (nausea, headaches, exhaustion, etc.) you can rest assured that you are likely pregnant!
  • First they will likely want to test your urine for HcG and protein. This will confirm that you are pregnant and that all of your levels are normal.
  • They will run routine check on your overall health such as blood pressure and weight at every check up.
  • Most offices will then do a vaginal ultrasound to make sure everything is looking healthy. If your baby is old enough at this check up you may be able to hear his/her heart beat. The baby will probably look like just a blob right now but it will be the sweetest blog you have ever seen!
  • You will likely meet one of the doctors in the practice to go through any discomfort or concerns you may have. This will be the time to let them know if you have any questions/concerns about the first trimester. You can even interview them at this time to see if the doctor/care group is a right fit for you but do not worry if you are not ready to do this quite yet- you will have plenty of time!

Finding Your Provider

Finding a provider that respects your values, has time for your questions, and makes you feel safe is so important! Here are a few things to consider when you begin your search…

Do you want a midwife or an OBGYN? This is a good place to start. Both come in many types and forms! Some midwives work under the umbrella of a hospital birth setting, while some only perform deliveries in home. Some have certain degrees/certifications and some do not. We will not go into all the details here so be sure to do your own research. However, the one main difference I have seen between an OB and midwives is the level of care and connection. If you are a more direct, to the point type person just here to get the job done you may appreciate the OB more than us slightly skeptical, questioning ladies who need that connection with our care provider.

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If you are looking to have a natural birth another great resource is looking at the c-section rates of the providers you are interested in. (You can find this information here!) If the rates are high you might want to take this into consideration.

Once you choose or if you already have and OB-GYN look up their c-section rates and the hospital where they will deliver. This is crucial to your birthing experience.

-Anna

Are they in network/budget? After narrowing it down to a few providers you are interested in check to see if they are within network if you have insurance. If you do not have insurance or you are using a midwife for a home birth you need to get a full breakdown of the cost per visit. This may sound overwhelming but it is a great way to eliminate your options.

Do they align with your values? They may not agree with you about how they like their coffee but you need to KNOW that your care provider has your best interest in mind. If you want a natural, unmedicated birth but your provider wants to induce every woman that comes into her office chances of your natural, unmedicated birth begin to fly out of the window. Regardless of if your provider says they will respect your wishes, you need to know that they will no matter what! Ask their opinion on unmedicated labor/delivery. Let them know up front what your expectations are. You are hiring them to work for you, not for you to mindlessly go along with what they say and pay the bill!

Remember you can always change your provider later on if you feel uncomfortable at any time or visit. If you are going through a network or care group you may be able to request certain OBs or NPs for appointments but you will likely be left to whoever is on call for your delivery.

Your providers are there to serve you. You can fire them if you do not like the care they are providing and get someone who is a better fit.

-Anna

Focus on Your Nutrition

Everything you do from now on not only effects you but it will effect your baby. The weight of that responsibility can seem so overwhelming at times but it starts here- everyday making the right choices for you and your little one! And it truly is simple (don’t overcomplicate it girl!).

Prenatals

Start your pregnancy off with good nutrition in the form of a QUALITY prenatal vitamin (a few of my favorites are linked below to help start your search). By quality I mean if it is in the form of a gummy and has 34 grams of added sugar….probably junk it!

You can start taking a prenatal right away. Personally I (Tori) stay on prenatals and likely will until I am done having babies. They are great to continue throughout postpartum. I highly recommend finding a good quality vitamin. I used the gummy junk ones my first pregnancy and noticed a big difference in my overall health with my second baby when I took a good vitamin.

Healthy Eating Habits

That prenatal is great but if you are not eating well your body will feel sluggish and you will likely be missing something you and the baby need. Here are a few tips to remember when it comes to food throughout your pregnancy…

  • Protein. As Americans we are all very protein deficient. We eat well below the recommended serving for a day. While pregnant (unless told otherwise by your healthcare provider) try to shoot for around 80 grams of protein daily. If you are dealing with morning sickness and nausea protein is a game changer. You also may find that when you are nauseous the last thing you want is protein. Try to get as much as you can in any form your stomach can handle. (Good sources of protein: meat, eggs, cheese, yogurt, nuts, protein shakes, etc.)
  • Fruits and Vegetables. This seems obvious but you will definitely need to stay up on the fruits and veggies. Dark green and leafy vegetables are an especially good source of iron and other nutrients you need while pregnant. Avocados are another very nutrient dense food to add to the list of pregnancy must haves. Berries are great and when added to a smoothie you may be able to stomach them better than eating them during the first trimester.
  • Eat what you can eat. If you find that EVERYTHING is making you nauseous, just eat what you can eat. Even if it is not healthy. You are far better off to eat a slice of pizza that does not make you rush to the bathroom than to throw up every meal or simply not eat anything at all. More than likely your nausea will subside going into the second trimester and you will have more time to focus on getting nutritional foods. If you are having trouble to the point that nothing is staying down let your provider know and they may offer medication to help ease your symptoms. Eating little and often (small snacks every couple hours) can really help get food in you without overloading your fragile system. Hang in there!

I wish I would have made more of an effort to make the best choices to fuel my body. Make sure you are giving your body the best you can, growing a baby is hard work!

-Anna

Weight Gain

Some women are concerned about their weight-gain during pregnancy to the point of obsession. Can we just take a moment and say- you are growing a WHOLE HUMAN inside you and you are going to gain weight! It is normal and it is okay. If you are eating decently healthy and staying active you do not need to be overwhelmed by the numbers on the scale.

Getting Through to that First Appointment

The first trimester for some is full of the hardest weeks of pregnancy. Here are a few things you can expect to experience during the weeks leading up to your first appointment and into the second trimester…

  • nausea/vomiting (known as morning sickness but can happen any time of day)
  • headaches
  • extreme fatigue
  • mood swings
  • cramping (light cramping like a period is normal; intense and very painful cramping is not normal and you should talk to your doctor about this BEFORE your eight week appointment)

With all this and maybe even more going on (hormones are CRAZY!!) you may be wanting to reach into the medicine cabinet for some relief….but you need to be careful. Many medications are not safe to take while pregnant and can harm your baby. Your doctor will likely give you a complete list of medications that are safe to take while pregnant but until then it can be scary trying to navigate what is safe. Below is a list of medications/herbs that are safe for most women to take while pregnant (if you have any medical problems please do your own research or speak to a doctor). They are also things that Anna and I took during our pregnancies…

  • Tylenol (this is the only pain reliever/fever reducer deemed safe at this time. It is highly recommended to avoid ibuprofen.)
  • Peppermint tea/oil for nausea and vomiting
  • Earthley Feel Better Fast for colds, upset stomach, and fevers
  • Earthley Cough B Gone for coughs and sore throat
  • Ginger tea/gummies for nausea and vomiting

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You will want to stop all other medications that are not safe for pregnancy. Speak to your family doctor about what you need to take/not take during the first weeks before your confirmation appointment.

Read this post on How to Make it Through the First Trimester.

Take the Nap

One major part of pregnancy is the fatigue. Anna and I are both homemakers and had the luxury of napping throughout the day as needed. From the homemaker standpoint there can be a lot guilt associated with being “lazy” all day. Your husband is out working and here you are falling asleep in a pile of laundry!

After two pregnancies myself my biggest piece of advice for the first trimester is just take the nap. Do what you can but when you are exhausted allow yourself that rest. You will likely never get to sleep like you can before you have that first baby!

You are not being lazy- your body is making a person! In the second trimester you will likely get your energy back, and then some.

If you can, take the nap! This is your first baby, you will NEVER be able to sleep like this again. Just take the nap!

Conclusion

As crazy as the first trimester can be try to relax and enjoy it. When you are having a hard day let your mind wander to the fun baby things like nursery decor, baby names, etc. It can feel like forever but the first trimester will not last long. Most women begin to feel more like themselves around the twelve or thirteen week mark. If you do not that is okay too! Your body is doing amazing things- have some grace with yourself.

If we can help you in any way please reach out on our contact page or drop a comment below!

Co-written by Tori Ruckman & Anna Bourdess

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The Ultimate Soft and Easy Sourdough Breadsticks Recipe

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We’re calling it a breadstick recipe but this recipe is my universal go-to for all things “bread-sides”! It can be used to make breadsticks, garlic knots, pizza bombs- you name it!

Sourdough Eliment

You might be here wondering- what in the world is up with all the sourdough things?

First, you are seeing it everywhere because it’s the trendy thing! However, more importantly, a lot of us are here for the health benefits.

Health Benefits of Sourdough

I could honestly write an entire post on this subject but here are just a few of the benefits of sourdough and why I personally choose it over yeast 90% of the time…

  • The breakdown of gluten. When you bake with sourdough the process of fermentation- long or short- breaks down the glutens far better than modified yeast products. This means your body is also able to break it down even better. Often those with gluten sensitivity and intolerance are able to eat sourdough.
  • The natural probiotics. The probiotic content in sourdough is so good for your gut! I decided that if I am making my own bread (or anything for that matter) I might as well get the most benefits out of it. The best thing about the probiotics in sourdough is that they are so easy on the digestive system.
  • Thoughtful ingredients. One of my favorite benefits of the sourdough world is that, often, when you are putting time and energy into a food you are much more likely to use quality ingredients. For example- I refuse to use bleached flour in anything! When it comes to my sourdough I am especially picky and choose to use only quality flour.

If you do not have a sourdough starter but are interested I have another blog post all about how to make your own sourdough starter! Around here sourdough is always, only simple. All the steps are curated to be easy to follow and very low maintenance.

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All-Purpose Recipe

This recipe could be termed an “all-purpose” recipe. You can make this dough for any pizza/bread type side recipe. Here are a few ideas…

  • Pizza crust
  • Garlic knots
  • Cheese sticks
  • Pizza bombs
  • Pepperoni bites

If you are wanting to turn a pizza or side bread recipe into a sourdough recipe simply substitute the dough for this recipe below and add whatever other ingredients are required.

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Sourdough Discard Breadsticks

An all-purpose bread dough recipe for breadsticks, pizza crust, garlic knots, and more.
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Prep Time 1 hour 35 minutes
Cook Time 15 minutes
Total Time 1 hour 50 minutes
Course Appetizer, bread, Pizza, Side Dish
Servings 15 sticks

Ingredients
  

  • 1 cup sourdough starter active or discard
  • 1 cup warm water
  • 1/4 cup honey or sugar
  • 2 tsp baking powder
  • 1 tsp salt
  • 3 cups all-purpose flour
  • 2 cloves garlic
  • 3 tbsp melted butter
  • garlic salt optional

Instructions
 

  • Combine starter and water. Allow to sit about 5 minutes, then stir.
  • Add honey, baking powder, salt, and flour.
  • Knead until smooth. The dough may be a bit sticky.
  • Let the dough rise for one hour. SEE NOTE #1.
  • Roll dough out on to floured surface.
  • Shape however you desire. For spiral technique follow the instructions below.
  • FOR SPIRAL SHAPE: Cut rolled out dough into 1 1/2-2 inch sections. Cut with a pizza cutter through the center of the section of dough almost all the way. Leave just a bit at the top of your cut (SEE PHOTO). Twist the parts together. Pinch the ends to keep them in tact.
  • After shaping, place on a greased pan and allow to rise for 30 minutes.
  • While dough is rising, melt butter and add finely chopped garlic. Brush the mixture on the breadsticks before baking. (I also add a bit of garlic salt.)
  • Bake at 350℉ for 12-15 minutes or until tops start to brown. Top with additional garlic butter after baking.

Notes

NOTE ONE: You may skip this step however it may result in slightly more dense and sour tasting breadsticks. 
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